A man is defended for his decision not to want to pay his stepdaughter’s tuition.
He posted the events leading up to the choice on the ‘AITA’ (Am I The A-hole) subreddit, a forum where users try to figure out whether or not they got it wrong in an argument that bothered them.
In his Reddit post, the man explained that he and his wife had been married for a decade and had a daughter from a previous relationship, Sarah.
His daughter-in-law is currently working to go to medical school.
During her freshman year of college, Sarah worked toward a degree in biology, taking additional courses she will also need for medical school.
“She has had [a] dream of being a doctor and helping people since his mother and I met. The problem is that she’s not a very good student,” he wrote.
The man pointed out that Sarah had previously “failed her Biology 1 class” and was forced to retake the course to receive a higher grade.
“She really struggled in her graduate level biology class and finished with a C. She also got a C in her chemistry class. She got a B in calculus 1 and 2,” he said. he continued, adding that in the current semester, he’s learned she’s “going to do B’s and C’s in her science and math classes.”
Even though Sarah didn’t get impressive marks in her science and math classes, she only got high marks in all the other subjects.
Due to his low grades in these courses, the man refuses to pay his medical school fees.
After learning how low Sarah’s grades were in those science and math classes, he decided to do some research.
“I’ve found that med school demands a lot, but at the top of the list is a high GPA and top grades in science and math,” he remarked, noting that his Current GPA is 3.2.
He continued, “With Sarah’s grades, she’s not getting into any medical school. I even looked into nursing school to see if I could convince her to go down this path and all the ones I have. examined require higher grades than she has.”
The man decided to discuss everything with his wife, but she maintained that medical schools “look at other things than grades”, which is the best thing for Sarah.
“She has a strong volunteer resume and she cares about people,” he added.
However, he refuted that none of this will matter if Sarah’s grades aren’t good enough, however, her mother was adamant that she will most likely excel in the school interview part. potential.
When Sarah came home for the Thanksgiving holiday, her stepfather sat her down and told her that she might want to “find out about another middle finger because she might not be cut out. to be a doctor”.
“She ran up to her mum and we all argued. I admit I lost my temper and yelled that I wasn’t wasting any more money on something she would fail at.”
He told Sarah and his wife that he wouldn’t pay for her next semester of classes until she changed her major to something she can pass.
“I feel bad, really, but I’m not rich and I don’t have money to waste if she doesn’t get a chance to get into medical school,” he concluded. .
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The majority of people who commented on the man’s Reddit post agreed that he was NTA (Not The A-hole).
“Medical schools are very competitive and each of them [has] a minimum GPA requirement. If her GPA is below that, they will automatically reject her without the possibility of an interview,” one user wrote.
Another user chimed in with a possible solution, writing, “A good compromise might be that you let her pay for school and if she excels you pay off her loans.”
“I’m all for supporting dreams, but based on her grades alone, it’s extremely unlikely that she’ll get into medical school, even if she gets perfect test scores,” added one. third user.
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